I made a photo book a while back with this title, and it seems to be more relevant today than it was those few years ago when I completed it.
I mentioned this in previous posts, so I won’t get into a terrible amount of detail here, but I have agoraphobia. It’s not “debilitating,” per se. I CAN go out of my house or my comfort spaces, but I hate it and it gives me a ridiculous amount of anxiety.
She didn’t think about when she enrolled in a photography course. You muttered to yourself just now. You’re partially right. I did think about it, but I thought that this would be a wonderful way to steal my creative mojo back from the depths of my depression and possibly beat the agoraphobia while I was at it.
I am saddened to admit that I’m not there yet. C. and I went out shooting. Going places with others usually keeps my anxiety in check, so I know this was kind of a “cheat” to bring him along, but I was going downtown at night to photograph some images for class and I don’t know how familiar you are with Cleveland, Ohio, my dear reader, but it can be murdery, and we don’t like being murdered. That said, we did go to a few different locations to get images. It was still quite chilly out, so that was annoying because being in a temperature that isn’t comfortable for me induces anxiety already, let alone the dark and the murdery undertones. Cleveland, albeit murdery, and kind of smelly, photographs beautifully, especially at night. Besides, I had a city landscape assignment to take care of for school, and I had been downtown a million times before, right? Well, no. I hardly ever go downtown, especially when it is dark. I have to admit, I get into a tunnel vision of sorts when I am peering through a viewfinder, so I would be an easy target for said murdery people. I digress.
I was excited to shoot these photos. C. is ever supportive when it comes to me and my quirkiness, so that helps, and he suggested a bunch of places that we could visit since he is far more familiar with downtown than I am. We had a very pleasant (however cold) outing.
Except for that one thing.
Every time I have been out with my camera lately, I can’t seem to concentrate on what I am doing because every nerve ending in my body is screaming at me to get the fucking shot and get back in the car, get out of there. It wasn’t only when I was downtown with an escort, either. This feeling was happening the day I went out for a daytime solo shoot as well. Get the shot, get the fuck out. Agoraphobia is a god damn bitch. The thing I always loved about photography is that it forces you to slow down and be very deliberate in your actions and thoughts, that’s the best way to get a great photograph. Slow and deliberate. That’s a theme. Meditation (something I am always being told to practice more often), deep breathing techniques, progressive muscle relaxation, all of these things are meant to slow you down and make you remain present in this moment. I think that is why photography was always such a soothing activity for me. It literally forced the anxiety to shut the fuck up for a minute while I concentrated on this other thing.
We had a great night downtown. I did enjoy our day, and I hate the bring the house down on a but, but I enjoyed our day in the only way that I know how to enjoy time anymore, with low-level but very uncomfortably present anxiety.
I know that I will never cure myself of this anxiety. Part of me doesn’t want to. To be honest, I don’t know how to function without it. I don’t know how to be a person without it. That said, I also don’t want it to get out of control and overtake my entire existence, which is has been slow and steady doing my whole life, but seemingly more so since the pandemic started. I went out with my camera a few weekends ago to work on this assignment and I honestly felt like I was emerging from a nuclear fallout shelter after decades of being underground. My anxiety was high, so everything was brighter than it really is, everything smelled more pungent than it really does, sounds were louder than they really are, my clothing touching my body felt like razors, and to top it all off, it was cold as fuck that day, so all the burning face tingles that accompany Ohio weather felt more tingly than it should have.
I am late posting this because it took me a hot minute to overcome the anxiety that even writing about this was giving me. I don’t want this to be my “normal.” I’ve managed with other kinds of anxiety, but for fuck’s sake, don’t take away my photography.
The best thing for me to do is to figure out how to get into a meditation mindset when I am out there with the camera. I need to get back to a place where photography is slow and deliberate. I need to get back to a place where the camera brings me peace. I’m afraid that if this agoraphobia sticks around that it will ruin the one thing I have left that makes me feel like a whole fucking human. Photography used to give me meaning, I fear that without it, my self-worth will plummet even further. I already can’t stand my job because it has been stripped of the artistry that I loved so much, I can’t bear to think of what my life will be like if I am stripped of photography, too.
I am supposed to start EMDR soon in therapy (that is, if I can stop bitching about how unfulfilling my job has become every hour I have with my therapist). I am really hoping that it will be the breakthrough I need to get back to 2015 me. That was the last time I felt any kind of motivation to be a human. I just realized; C. only got to know that me for a few months before I devolved into the lump of turd-filled flesh that I am right now.
I hope that he will still like me when I get back to being the real me.
Until next time,
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